Ask Sarah: As Soon as Forever Is Through, I’ll Be Over You

Posted on December 4, 2011

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Question: So my boyfriend and I broke up about two months ago and I must say I miss him. He’s dated other girls but I can’t date anyone, I can’t get over him, and I can’t move on. What do I do? 

"So let's get over this break up!"

 

Answer:

            “Can’t” is such a strong word. Let’s make like Thomas the Train and think you can!

           

            Moving on is a big hurdle for most people who think they are in love. You had strong feelings for this boy and you want him back so badly.  I hate to break it to you, but it’s not going to happen. So let’s get over this break up!

 

            Step one: Don’t go to places that you have romantic memories from. Make your own memories with new people who will never leave you.

 

            Step two: Go to your girl friends. “It is always good to talk things over with friends, to get an outside perspective on issues and to share experiences,” said relationship expert Delissa Huapi. Friends are always there for you and they can help you so much along the way to recovery.

 

            Step three: Don’t stay alone! Go shopping, do some outrageous activities, try new things, get a make over, flirt a little, go to a social gathering, or even run with a few friends. Don’t listen to sad songs, look at pictures of you and him, watch his favorite shows, or stalk him… that’s just weird.

 

            Step four: Accept that he is gone. Think positively about it though. You don’t have to waste your money on him, drive him everywhere, worry about him, spend every day with him and fight with him. It’s great to be single. It’s time for you, no one else!

 

            Finally, step five: Know you deserve a better person and love yourself. Self-esteem is a big issue after a break up. Most people look back on it to see what they did wrong and blame themselves. Well, forget that! You did everything right, he made the mistake walking out on a great girl, and he’s the one with the problems.

 

            Just always remember this little quote: “If you aren’t happy single, you won’t be happy taken. Happiness comes from within, not from men.”

Reported by Sarah Braun

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